A resentment is like you drinking the poison and expecting the other person to get sick……
Resentment made me very sick and took up so much time in my life by stewing and thinking all the time. Thankfully today life is not like that for me, yes I get angry and people hurt me and piss me off but I don let it take my peace of mind and let them consume me.
A lot of the time the other person does not even know we have the resentment towards them (isn’t that crazy).
So I have two ways that help me deal with resentments, first one is when I am able to do so is communicate with the other person about the issue, and a lot of the time it is not even about their response, (remember we can’t control other people) for me it is about getting the issue out of my head and vocalizing it which helps me.
Second one Is when the above is not possible I need to forgive the person (before you start saying I will never forgive that person for such and such) hear me out. The forgiveness is not for them it is for you so you can move on and let the resentment go because remember this is doing you more harm holding onto it.
So I would forgive the person in my head every day it came into my head for 2 weeks and believe me it does ease and life goes on.
Remember not to get caught up in the story of why you shouldn’t forgive the person, focus on the reasons you should which is your mental health and trust me that is way more important.
Resentments can start small and can turn nasty especially between couples, I cannot stress how important it is to communicate any resentments you have towards your partner so you can deal with them openly and honestly. Talking does help and always listen without the intention of wanting to respond just listen to listen…